A father and child can be one big family – The Burlington Record
Father’s Day is coming once again and you still have a chance to have a big family.
Fathers, like most people, have good days and bad days. They have good seasons of life and other more difficult ones. Few dads will look back on their lives and say, “I was a perfect dad every day. Some days were better than others.
We all feel bad about the seasons in our lives when we’ve had to work too hard. Working all the time drains the energy we would rather spend on our families. The problem is, like most dads, we want to keep a roof over our heads and food in the fridge. Car payments, house payments, and all the basics in life usually keep most moms and dads busy.
Even in a home filled with love and patience, the average dad lives a juggling life. He is torn between work, the children’s ball games, the needs of his wife and household chores. Add to that school meetings, homework, fishing, piano lessons, family events, all while trying to maintain and enrich his career.
Most of us, looking back, can think of endeavors or activities that we wish we had given up in order to spend more time with our families. For some strange reason at the time, they all seemed so important, but now they feel like a waste of time.
Throughout life, we usually learn the hard way. Education is always expensive. Our vision is 20/20 retrospective. People tell us what we’re going to regret and what we should do, but we rarely believe them.
When we pass the “fifty-five” mark in life, we begin to realize what the “ancients” told us was true. You know how it is because you’re probably telling your kids what’s right and what’s wrong and what they’ll like or regret. In most cases, they don’t pay much attention to you.
The only season of being a father you have is this one. No future is guaranteed and yesterday is over. You have today. Have a loving and forgiving heart. Extend grace and a second, third or fourth chance. Try to spend time with those you love.
You’re probably discovering now that your adult children are too busy for you. They have their own life and you may not be a priority. It hurts some, but they’re probably just like before. Don’t lose sleep over this, but be available and reach out as much as you can.
Finally, you have to be more than a human ATM. You can’t buy your children’s affection for the rest of your life. All parents want to help their children, but the best thing you can do for them is to work with them to help them take care of themselves. You can either teach them how to fish or spend the rest of your life fishing for them, which ends up being a hard life for you and crippling them.
Today is another opportunity to be a good father. It is also a good day to return love and affection to your father. A father and child working together can be a big family.
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Dr. Glenn Mollette is a graduate of many schools including Georgetown College, Southern and Lexington Seminaries in Kentucky. He is the author of 13 books including Uncommon Sense, Grandpa’s Store, Minister’s Guidebook insights from a fellow minister. His column appears weekly in more than 600 publications in all 50 states.